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Tuesday, January 17, 2012

The Adolescent Brain: Mystery Solved?

The Adolescent Brain: Mystery Solved?

By Carla Turner, Parenting Coalition Member

Think back (for some of us, WAAAAY back) to what it was like - - adolescence.  Leaps of physical growth that are sometimes painful in the literal sense, simmering hormones that seem to have a life of their own and whisper demands that are entirely contradictory to everything your parents ever said, a posse of friends who are flailing around in the same Petri dish of a social, biological and hormonal chemistry experiment.  And the capper?  A still-developing brain that hasn't quite reached the point where it can guide decision making with calm, reasoned judgment. 

These aren't character flaws; it's the way kids ARE, and the way it has always been.  Relatively recent advances in magnetic resonance imaging (MRI) technology have given researchers new insight into teen brain development, which the National Institute of Health refers to as "...a work in progress."  In 1999, the National Institute of Mental Health reported conclusions from a longitudinal study in which children's brains were scanned via MRI every two years to observe patterns of growth and development.  The NIMH researchers noted a significant surge in production of gray matter - - the part of the brain that is responsible for thinking functions - - correlated to the onset of puberty.  When a team of UCLA researchers took the NIMH brain scans and configured them as four-dimensional, time-lapse images, it became possible to watch the virtual evolution of children's gray matter from age 4 to age 20.  The UCLA team found that gray matter develops first at the rear of the brain and progressively moves forward, with the frontal lobe not reaching full maturity until the mid-20s.  So, the next time your teen is provoking you, feel free to yell, "Well, you only have a partial BRAIN!!!"  OK, don't yell that, even if it's kinda true.  That missing link, the frontal lobe, influences how much effort someone is willing to invest in a task, and the ability of an individual to think through the consequences of any given decision, and the capacity of that person to control impulses and reactions.

The greatest thing about this research may be that it lets us all off the hook a bit (but not completely) - - adolescent risk-taking behavior and lack of impulse control are natural responses to a natural process.  Rebellious, challenging teens aren't bad people, and those teens' custodial figures aren't bad parents....it's just the way the organism is constructed.  And there's also reaffirmed hope that the maturation process will END, which is a relief for parents and teens alike.  It's a challenging place to be, adolescence - - logically, you know what you SHOULD be doing, but almost everything within you screams out for you to do just the opposite.  Yo, adults - - remember back and try to hang onto that compassion and empathy.

So, we know what we have to work with.  We have adolescents who are socially, biologically, hormonally and neurologically predisposed to experiment and take risks and challenge the status quo.  We have adults who ideally are in possession of fully developed gray matter complete with the capability to control impulses, temper, reactions, judgments.  The smart money is on the adults to create protective frameworks (such as after-school supervision, driving regulations and service activities that reinforce character and ethics) around our community's children, within which they can test their limits and practice their critical thinking skills and learn to accept responsibility for their actions and hone that internal locus of control.  Yes, adolescents need to feel the consequences of their actions; but it's up to us as adults to minimize the opportunties for those consequencese to be fatal or life-altering.  We can do it.....WE have fully developed brains!  

 

5 comments:

  1. Carla, thanks so much for taking the time to kick off Parenting Ph.D.! Your post highlights a fact that I think most folks outside of education and mental health don't even know. And, you're right . . . it makes a difference.

    Parenting Ph.D. is going to be a terrific resource for our community and I'm hoping that you'll be including resources for "nontraditional" families, too. If you are open to guest posts, I would be happy to pitch titles on some topics I could write.

    So sad to see that we have lost you, Carla, from the Douglas County Youth Initiative. Hope you'll stay in touch. Best wishes on your journey!

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    1. Thank you for your post. Though my kids haven't quite reached adolescence, I was just thinking about what stage my 11 year old is developmentally. I can see how the adults in his life are critical to minimizing the opportunities for the consequences to be fatal or life-altering. Do you have any suggestions on how we can do this when our kids are at school and are exposed to or influnced by things that they wouldn't be in our homes?

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    2. Hi, Tami!

      Wow, excuse my late-itude - - I've been neglecting Parenting PhD, and I won't anymore.

      You ask a question that is the concern of every parent and of every prevention specialist - - we know our kids need to learn from their mistakes and that their brains are hard-wired to pretty much encourage mistake-making, but how do we minimize the consequences? Here's what I think, and I'll invite the Parenting Coalition to also weigh in:

      > YOU set the foundation. As a parent, your kid listens to you even more than you realize. Social norms surveys in Douglas County schools indicate that teens trust their parents as a source of reliable, accurate info. You can use that to your advantage.

      > As a community, we need to invest in large-scale, proven prevention approaches. Your school district is doing just that - - the Social Norms Marketing Campaign is reducing teen substance use, and the Suicide Prevention Alliance is working with the schools to ensure that warning signs are noticed and acted upon as quickly as possible. The Teen Driving Coalition is working on seatbelt compliance and elimination of distractions among new and inexperienced drivers. So, the community ideally works together to minimize the dangers from driving, drugs, alcohol, self-harm and so much more.

      But. All that being said, life happens and our little risk-takers skateboard without a helmet or they cross train tracks. We do what we can to protect them and give them tools to protect themselves - - like it was for you and me, most of them will make it through childhood and adolescence just fine, with maybe some scraped knees and some bumps and bruises from living an active life.

      And we want that, too - - we don't want bubble-wrapped kids who are too scared to live. Our little risk-takers remind us that life is short and is meant to be enjoyed - - we adults inject some rationality into that formula.

      Thoughts, anyone?

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  2. Thanks, Tamara! Wow, we would love to get posts and suggestions for resources from ya, so write on! The website turned out pretty well - - I think I'll replicate it for the Virtual Substance Abuse Resource Fair for the coalition. Easy to update and maintain, reasonably easy to set up......

    Thanks again for the kind words - - it means so much to me!

    Carla

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  3. Oh, great - just lost my whole comment. Trying again . . . . Carla, I will try to pull some resource together for a post.

    Tami, just wanted to say that I was having this very discussion yesterday with a client. I completely get that a parent wants to protect their child from bad things. However, I don't think that that's possible or even desireable because bad things happen to all of us.

    Rather than bubble-wrapping that child, I believe that a he should stumble and fall early and often so that you can show him how to get up and avoid those holes in the future and how to take care of a banged up knee when they happen.

    If you teach that 11 year old in a hundred different ways how to say "no" with pride, and authority, . . . If you help him learn how to be confident about his own ability to think and make decisions, . . . If you show him that he can be comfortable being exactly who he is (because you are really comfortable with him being exactly who he is) . . . he won't need any bubble wrap and he won't need to be protected.

    He will be smart and strong and know exactly what to do when the pre-teen temptations and the teenage choices show up. He won't be living in a cool or not-cool/ do or die / black and white world that many of us grew up in.

    He'll have LOTS of CHOICES that are "right" rather than JUST ONE CHOICE that is "right." And, he'll know that he can make choices . . . different than yours perhaps . . . and different than his friends' too . . . . He'll know that he make difficult choices and still be OK.

    After all . . . wasn't that the hard part of being a kid - wanting to be part of the pack and believing that if you made the "wrong" choice, it wouldn't be OK?

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